The Healing Power of Marketing

I was waiting for the tapioca pudding. In the same way many of us wait for customers.

We were having a great conversation with some friends over for dinner, but I have to admit, I was a little distracted, thinking about the tapioca pudding we were going to be having for dessert.

If this happens among friends, imagine what your customers are thinking about while they are reading your marketing. And, it might be a whole lot more distracting than tapioca pudding.

One of our friends had been a filmmaker for years, and had worked in marketing with the major Hollywood studios as well. And then gave it up to become a very successful naturopathic doctor specializing in helping people who have cancer.

He told us, “But I’m doing the same thing. Telling stories, and listening to stories. Because I’ve become clear that’s where the real healing comes from.”

He explained how he had been telling stories through film for a long time, but never got to interact with the people watching the film. Now he sees patients every day, and listens to their stories. “It’s incredible to watch how much healing and relief comes in when people get to tell their stories.”

I asked him: “Does it matter whether someone is telling their own story, or can you tell their story to them, and get the same effect?”

His answer: “It doesn’t seem to matter. As long the story gets told, and the person recognizes it as their own, the healing takes place.”

That rang true for me. I’ve watched movies, and seen echoes of my own life in them, and felt a real relief and spaciousness open in me. I’ve also heard from clients who have expressed tremendous gratitude just at having their stories validated- “You mean, I’m not the only one in this situation?”

This has profound implications for your marketing. Your marketing doesn’t have to be merely a prelude– your marketing can deliver the tapioca of your business, and stimulate tremendous healing for people.

Tell your customers’ stories in your marketing. It may only be a few sentences. It may be longer and more dramatic. But capture the essence of the difficulty they are facing, and their emotions, needs and desires. And, in the telling, they can experience profound relief and gratitude.

When someone feels profound relief and gratitude, they feel safe. Not only do they feel happier and more whole, but they tend to stick around longer.

The tapioca pudding is on it’s way. But, in the meantime…

Keys to the Healing Power of Marketing

• You have to know who you are talking to.

You’ve probably heard me beat this drum before, but how can you tell someone’s story if you don’t know who they are? And, one of the most elemental pieces of their story is their name. In a marketing context when you don’t know the customer personally (yet), their name is your target market. Who you are helping, and What you are helping them with.

• You need to see things from their perspective.

When I was a paramedic, it was all too easy to talk about someone’s problems from a clinical perspective, and I see business owners do that all the time as well. In order to effectively create connection and healing, you need to drop the impersonal ‘professionalism’ of clinical talk, and climb into their shoes and feel their pain. Then you can show real empathy.

• Take it a step further.

Many times, just naming them and their pain can create a huge amount of relief. But, take it a step further, and you’ll be that much closer to creating a real, long-term customer relationship. Give them a solution.

The Heart of Business example: [Identity] For people who got into small business because they really want to make a difference, [Problem] but are now facing the reality of needing to make a profit. [Solution] You can be profitable, without losing the heart of why you got into business in the first place.

Ahhhh…. big sigh of relief. You can expand this into an entire story, with many more details, according to the context.

And, once they connect- don’t forget to offer them the tapioca pudding. They just might buy it from you.

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And now for the tapioca pudding!

Tapioca Pudding, from Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon
(I HIGHLY recommend this cookbook. It will revolutionize how you eat, and you’ll love the food.)
Serves 8

1 cup medium or small pearl tapioca
4 cups whole milk (or you can use whipping cream, or rice milk)
3 eggs, separated, at room temperature
1/2 tsp sea salt
3/4 cup Rapadura sugar (or you can use maple syrup)
grated rind of 1 lemon
pinch of sea salt

Soak tapioca in milk overnight in the refrigerator. In a separate bowl, blend egg yolks, salt, Rapadura and lemon rind. Cook tapioca about 45 minutes in a double boiler over simmering water until very thick, stirring almost constantly with a whisk toward the end of thickening. Add a spoonful of hot tapioca to egg yolk mixture and then add warmed egg yolk mixture to the tapioca.

Cook about 5 minutes more over simmering water, stirring constantly. beat egg whites with sea salt until softly stiff and fold into tapioca mixture. Serve well chilled. Yum.

Bon appetit!