I’m Just a Girl Who Can’t Say No
One of the members of the Business Oasis, our online heart-centered business community, started a conversation about the drain that helping other people has on her. “I’m just a girl who can’t say no,” she told us.
Electric response! It seems many people have this same issue. Of course we do.
We want to help. We want to be liked. We want to be useful. And, we’re all so used to coping with our own problems, that it seems a small thing to just suppress our own needs a little longer to help out another human.
The ticking time bomb.
Well, I’m assuming that you’re like me, and that years of suppressing needs has coiled the spring tighter and tighter. Suddenly, it seems as if life is just living from one time-bomb to the next, always ready to explode into overwhelm.
And still, still, still we don’t say “No” when we need to. We get sick, we collapse, we hide, rather than saying “No.”
Okay, it’s not always that bad. But… sometimes it is.
Besides, isn’t “No” a spiritual no-no?
Isn’t everyone always telling you to say “Yes” and accept what the Divine brings you? Aren’t we supposed to be of service? Isn’t selfishness a sin?
Well, yeah, kinda. But, not ‘zackly.
Saying no is actually an important skill in your business. Read this article.
Listen to the podcast- around six minutes.
How do you say ‘no’ when you need to?