I’m surrounded by boxes, my clothes are still piled on the floor because we haven’t gotten dressers yet, and while we did start cooking again, it’s more pasta and hamburgers rather than full-on cooking a meal.
Yes, we finally moved into our new house at White Hawk Ecovillage this past Friday! Woo-HOO!
This weekend is the one-year anniversary since we moved, and it’s the 14 month anniversary since we decided to move.
One of the catch-phrases at Heart of Business during this time has been, “After Mark is in his house, then we’ll…” Although the business hasn’t exactly been on hold, there has been a spaciousness missing in me to really be engaged on many exciting projects we want to take on here.
The last 2 months have been agony on this front. Things I have been *aching* to get to for a year or more that I knew I just had to wait on. Driving 2 hour round trip for tile, then doing it again when edging that was needed took longer to come in, then finding out that edging was available in town. Then driving 90 minutes round trip to get a range oven hood. And on and on and on…
All wonderful little details that make our house beautiful and livable. The details matter. But they can be agony because there are So. Darn. Many. Of. Them.
Especially agony when it feels like the details are keeping you from getting on with your life, with moving into something really expansive, or a new phase.
This was, as you can imagine, a topic that come up in our Community this past Monday. So, 3 things.
- ARGH! Aaahhh! There, that feels better, doesn’t it? Agony, I’m tellin’ ya.
- Embrace the details. I know, it’s hard to embrace agony – but the details are there whether you fight ‘em or love ‘em. I suggest embracing them. Maybe your life isn’t waiting for you “out there” but is right here, right now. Maybe the quality you bring to finishing the details will contribute to the quality of transition and the beauty of your entrance into a new phase. Maybe.
- You’re going to get there. You may not realize this, but you are being carried. Although it’s important to show up and do things, the doing of things is more of a prayer and less of an active “making things happen.” Trust me on this one.
What if you could treat your actions during this last phase as a loving prayer of gratitude for how you’re being carried through the end of one project and into the expansiveness of the next?
There you have it, the 3 easy steps to handling the agony of being stuck in the end of one project when you really want to move on. Repeat Step 1 as often as you need to, as long as you follow it up with steps 2 and 3.
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7 Responses
I feel your pain, Mark. We moved nine months ago and we are renovating. The details! Details, details, details. I’m going to go mad!
Thanks for a great post. I feel much better.
Alice- so many details, eh! Glad you feel better. 🙂 I do, too.
Oh, I so needed this one, Mark!
We leave for our grand adventure this Friday–after less than a month of getting an offer, making the decision to move countries, and shifting our entire lives around. We are awash in details involving home and business.
Amidst this, part of me is extra-eager to get started straight-away with making even more business changes. But it just can’t happen right now (at least with the full-on, single-minded focus I’m wanting).
I’ll probably keep trying, regardless:). But mostly, once we hit the road, I hope to rest into a knowing of being carried. That is, after all, what set this entire shift in motion and got us to our current place.
Congrats to you in your new home. And huge bow to you and Heart of Business for helping carry me and my business through our own transition.
Dana- so AMAZING- WOW! And yes, please rest into being carried. Bon voyage! What a journey you’ve been on, not just recently, but for awhile now. 🙂
Perfect timing on this post Mark! I’m moving from Utah to South Florida in 2 weeks and even though it’s just me, it’s been a crazy process. I decided to really simplify and I’m getting rid of anything that won’t fit in my SUV and loading up me, my 2 cats, and my son if driving with me. What an adventure.
I’m going to remember your 3 tips when things like they wanted to deliver my new couch to my new Florida this week and I’m getting the apartment for 2 weeks – eek! and other things that may go wrong. I’ll say ahhhh. Embrace the details, and know I’m going to get there. – Even if I have to give the cats kitty Zanax to keep them calm during the trip 🙂
Yes, Angela! Kitty Xanax! Our cats were given sedatives for the cross-country flight- what a big difference! Can really reduce trauma, on everyone. And embrace the details…
OMG, Angela! My partner and I moved from south Florida to Colorado in January…but are leaving tomorrow for another new home in BC, Canada–also in a u-haul and also with two cats very much in need of Zanax. Like you, we got rid of everything that wouldn’t fit. Feels scary and uncertain and exhilarating. Wonderful to think of another two people plus two cats on a similar journey! Best wishes!