I have recently finished a great course in group energetics, taught by the fabulous Sheron Fruehauf of Lionheart Consulting (you can check them out on my resources page). I want to talk about a particular bit from the class, because it applies to the world, and it applies to our businesses.
What Sheron explained is that sometimes someone in a group becomes the magnetic pole for a certain issue, for instance let’s say helplessness and victimhood, and they end up carrying that energy, as a magnet, for everyone in the group. If everyone owns their own piece, it helps to move the group forward, and heal our wounds of separation. If we don’t, drama erupts, or the person is pushed out.
What this looked like in one of my money teleconference classes recently, was someone had a very distressing situation in their life financially, and she was crying, so upset she could barely speak. In the silence on the line I could feel myself wanting to help her, and Sheron’s teaching struck me- all of us on the call weren’t allowing ourselves to feel the part of us that felt as helpless as this woman did, and this was creating an emotional and energetic pressure cooker.
I asked everyone, including me, to just stop, to feel our own helplessness and scarcity in ourselves, and to make room for it, to own it, and then immediately- IMMEDIATELY- the woman who had been this energetic pole stopped crying, reported that she had an immediate sense of relief and spaciousness, and could then go on to talk about her situation and we, as a group, could discover some wisdom in the situation.
I have since used this repeatedly in other groups and have found it to work every single time. When everyone in the group can come into some sense of responsibility, the person who is the magnetic pole in that moment (it rotates in a healthy group) experiences relief, and the whole group learns and grows.
In your business, are you, in trying to help your clients, or your business, unconsciously pushing and disowning the feelings that are being a mirror to you? In our world, are we pushing away and disowning any feelings that are contributing in some way to what is happening in Iraq?
In responding to these situations:
• Notice what feelings are really going on for you deep within.
• Make space for them, receive them, open your heart to whatever feelings of rage, helplessness, fear, despair, are really going on for you.
• If it’s a small group, or an immediate situation, look and see what is happening.
• If it’s a large group, or a world event, ask the Divine in your heart for some feedback on how this is contributing to peace, resolution, and movement in the world.
